Everardo Martínez: Homosexuals: What about anorexics who feel fat when they are skinny?
The interview you are about to read may be controversial. But the Mexican psychologist argues with scientific data. He says, for example, that "homophobia does not exist" and that "homosexual attraction is a feeling that you 'have' and that, as such, you can stop having it".
By Nicolás de Cárdenas -10/29/2016
Everardo Martínez, psychologist specializing in the development of heterosexuality / Actuall.com.
Professor Everardo Martínez Macias dedicates a good part of his professional efforts as a psychologist to develop heterosexuality in those people who have different sexual behaviors and want to abandon them.He claims, for those who make that decision, the same respect for their freedom that the LGTBI lobby claims for itself because, he defends that "our work responds to a human need of millions of people who, they have the right to know, that they can remove a homosexual attraction, which they did not ask for".
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Martinez is clear that there is no biological cause in sexual behaviors different from heterosexual, that he does not know anyone clinically homophobic and that we are not determined by what we feel.
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From youe professional experience, would you say that one is born homosexual, bisexual, transsexual, intersexual, etc.?
To begin with, in childhood there is no sexual attraction, that is well known by all child psychologists. On the other hand, no biological cause of homosexual, bisexual, intersexual, transsexual, pansexual, transgender, transgender, etc. attraction has yet been found; there is no biological causal factor, and environmental causes, i.e. known psychological causes, have not been disregarded. All biological hypotheses always need an "environmental trigger" factor, so this leaves us with a technical tie issue. Or, only with psychological causal factors, since even if there were a biological factor, again I repeat: that has not been found. Homosexuality, bisexuality, etc. would have to be triggered by an environmental factor. But the scientific community...On this issue the scientific community in general has walked by faith, taking for granted that there is a biological causal factor, which has not yet been found. This leaves us in a situation where we can ask ourselves: What if we are all born heterosexual and the non-heterosexual attraction was caused by something, how do we explain homosexual feelings? It would be too long to explain them in this space and I do not want to seem simplistic. What I can say is that this feeling is caused by a set of psychological factors crystallized in the following elements: Relationship with the father; with the mother; family dynamics; relationship with peers; and sexual abuse or rape. Not all homosexuals, bisexuals, etc. have all of them, but at least three are present. When the problems in these elements are resolved, the feeling disappears.
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"If sanity is aligning objective reality to our tastes, then what about anorexics who feel fat while being skinny?"
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Some supporters of gender ideology, have identified dozens of different sexual modes. How important to you are the terminology and concepts used?
Gender ideology offers an explanation that does not blame the person for having a feeling that he did not choose, that took him by surprise and that he does not understand. And this has its merit. From this perspective it is important to give a name to all these sentimental variants, however, I believe that they are confusing people much more, because their explanation is simply "we are what we feel", giving an overvaluation to feelings that generates serious social and family conflicts, and without contemplating the implications of all this. If 'I am' what 'I feel' and if that is 'always right'... Then, what happens with anorexics who feel fat when they are skinny? What will happen if a 40-year-old man comes to tell you that he is in love with your 5-year-old daughter? If sanity is to align objective reality to our tastes, then what will happen to children who don't want to eat vegetables? Or study mathematics? Or play sports? We are forgetting that feelings are a state, not an essence.
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"When the person understands that he 'is' heterosexual by design, not by what he feels, then he can at any age, stimulate the development of what he is: a heterosexual person."
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So is it necessary to discard feeling as the basis for the construction of personal identity, especially sexual identity?
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Indeed, feelings are something we 'have', not that we 'are'. One 'has' fear, not 'is' fear. On the other hand, if we base our identity on 'design', we will realize that there are only two designs and that both are complementary. This is called heterosexuality. By conclusion, we are either male or female, but all are heterosexual. Homosexual attraction is a feeling that we 'have' and, as such, we can stop having it. We can stop having what we have, but we cannot stop being what we are. Every cell in our body contains this total design.
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You use the expression "development of heterosexuality" What does it consist of?
What I teach has more to do with identity than with feelings. And this is the basis for the development of heterosexuality. Gender ideology offers us a way to define identity: according to what I 'feel' is what I 'am', but there is another way to define identity, which is that of 'design': we know identity by design. The objective reality. And, from the design, we know the use. In that order. This would take too long to explain but, in summary, we will say that when the person understands that he 'is' heterosexual by design, not by what he feels, then he can, at any age, stimulate the development of what he is: a heterosexual person.
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What does this consist of?
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It has been extensively studied by brilliant colleagues such as Joseph Nicolosi or Gerard J. M. van den Aardweg. The factors are: a) the relationship with the father; b) the relationship with the mother; c) the family dynamics: this includes the relationship with his brothers and sisters and also the experience that the child has, the relationship with the person that mom and dad have and, finally, d) the integration of the person with his friends of the same age and of the same sex, where the activities of the same sex and of that age have a crucial value.
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Is sexual behavior different from heterosexual behavior? Is it modifiable? Or, in other words, is it reversible?
Yes, absolutely reversible and absolutely eradicable. And not only that: heterosexual attraction is developable.