Fourth commandment
181. The fourth commandment is: Honor father and mother
This commandment includes the obligations:
1º From children to their parents
2º From parents to their children
3º From the inferior to their superiors
4º From the superiors to the inferiors
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Duties of children towards their parents
182. In the fourth commandment it is commanded: 1) to love and respect our parents; 2) to obey them; 3) to help them in their spiritual and material needs.
183. In the fourth commandment it is forbidden to offend our parents with words, works or in any other way.
184. They sin against the fourth Commandment the children who do not obey their parents; those who do not help them in their needs; those who curse or make fun of them or raise their hand against them, and those who without cause try to marry without their blessing and counsel.
185. They are included in the fourth commandment, with the name of parents, teachers and superiors, ecclesiastical and civil authorities, and in general the ones with more age, dignity and government.
[In chapter 3 of the book of Ecclesiasticus, of the Old Testament, we learn more about the duties of children towards their parents, there we can read, for example: "He who respects his father will have a long life; he who obeys the Lord will be the comfort of his mother. He will serve those who gave him life as if he served the Lord."]
Children owe their parents: love, respect, obedience and assistance.
Love, because after God, they owe them their existence.
Respect and obedience, because they are superior by nature
Obedience must be in what is lawful and just, while they are under the authority of parents and in the domestic household.
186. You can never obey whoever commands a bad thing, no matter who orders it.
In the choice of [civil or religious] status, children are not obliged to obey their parents.
The obligation of obedience ceases for various reasons, but the obligation of love and respect never ceases.
Spiritual and physical assistance, when and how often parents need it.
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Duties of parents towards their children.
187. The fourth commandment also includes the obligations of superiors towards their inferiors, and that of parents towards their children.
188. Parents, regarding children, have the obligation to feed them, teach them, correct them, give them a good example, and in due time, a competent state that is not contrary to their will and vocation.
Parents owe their children: love and physical and spiritual education
Love must be internal, external and well-ordered.
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Body education
Parents must protect the lives of their children.
Those who maliciously prevent the existence of children are guilty of very serious sin.
They must provide everything necessary for life, as long as the children cannot do it themselves.
They should teach them a work or profession, so that they can earn a living and be useful to society.
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Spiritual education
The end of bodily education of children is their temporal happiness; that of spiritual education is their temporal and eternal happiness.
Therefore, spiritual education is much more important than physical education.
Spiritual education consists in giving the children doctrine, correction and example.
Doctrine
1- To ensure that children are baptized as soon as possible.
2- To teach them, or by another person, the Christian doctrine and make sure that they practice it.
3- Entrust them, as far as possible, to teachers who are good Christians.
[That is why Our Lady of the Roses tells us to investigate the teachers of our children]
4- Watch them so that they do not pervert.
Correction
Should be moderate and prudent.
Example.- Nothing persuades as much to practice the good as the good example.
The Holy Family (Jesus, Mary and Joseph) is the model of the perfect family.
189. Parents who fail in their obligations to their children, usually sin mortally.
[Parents are responsible for the souls of their children. Woe to them if because of them the children were lost, Our Lady of the Roses tells us.]
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Servants and masters.
Teachers and disciples.
The servants owe to their masters: reverence, obedience and fidelity.
Masters owe their servants: treat them well, instruct them, correct them and pay them a fair wage.
Teachers and preceptors act as parents in the education and teaching of their disciples.
The disciples owe to their teachers and preceptors: love, reverence and obedience.
Teachers and preceptors owe their disciples: love, doctrine, correction and example.
They must be respected and obeyed in all that they have the right to command.
God is the one who gives the right to command: those who have this right represent God.
When we obey, we must do so in a spirit of faith, thinking that we are obeying not man but God.
Never can the superior command what God forbids; and if he commands it, never the subject must or can obey things that are evil by their nature.
God must be obeyed first than men.
[That is why Our Lady of the Roses tells us never to accept Communion in the hand, which is a sacrilege. And that our obedience (and obviously, that of the ordained, consecrated, etc.) is first and foremost to Christ according to Holy Tradition (the only Way that the Church followed almost 2000 years)]